Fear Around Decisions - Season 1 Ep. 7

Season #1

How to reduce the fear around decision making

A big source of fear for many people is fear around making decisions. This can be big life-changing decisions like deciding whether to take a redundancy, change career, leave a relationship etc or it can be small. If we are having problems making a decision we generally feel very uncomfortable around it and the fear can become paralysing. It is not necessarily a good idea to reduce the fear before the decision is made but rather to support the making of the best possible decision. 

In this episode I walk you through a tried and tested decision making strategy I created and have used for many years with clients. 

First make sure you are imagining you are in a position on a road before making the decision. Notice how you come to a point in the road where it divides into two roads, one veering to the right and one to the left. Notice how you feel in your body in the flux of not having a decision made. Next, step onto the road to the right which is the road where the big decision is and walk as far as making the decision looking out through your eyes, seeing what you would see, hearing what you would hear and feeling what it feels like to be on that point of the road where you have made that decision. Check in with your body to see what it feels like. Then step out one week beyond that point where you are living life after making that decision and notice what that feels like. How are you acting, behaving, interacting and more importantly, how are you feeling emotionally. Step further out to a month, six months, a year, two years, five years and beyond and check in with how you feel. 

Next come back to the point on the road before the decision was made and where the ‘Y’ in the road is. Now do exactly the same think taking the road to the left and feel everything in that scenario too. Then come back to the point on the ‘Y’ in the road.  

I have always found that I ask people not to make a definite decision yet but to let that settle with them and over the next day or so to engage their logical mind and look at the pros and cons of their decision options. Next I ask them to decide on a definitive time that they will have their decision made for sure within the next week and max two weeks. 

I have used this technique with clients for many, many years and have seen the most unlikely and likely decisions made over the years but what I have to say is that all of those decisions were the right ones and served those people very well.  


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